Transform your Life. Step 10 of 10.

Transform your life!  Step 10 of 10 effective steps on how to start creating the changes you want

I have produced this series of steps on "How to effectively create the changes you want in your life" as an outline of the work I teach with my Intuitive Life-coaching work.  
I hope you find this helpful and it encourages you to start making some changes. 
Start where you are, start one day at a time, start with one thing at a time.  Slow and steady progress is the most likely to make the longer term results.  Changes need time to integrate into your life.
Please feel free to like/comment/share.  Thank you.  Elaine <3

Step 10

Daily Rituals

Congratulations, you have made it to step 10.  Now let's try and bring it all together.

To make change in our lives, we need to change something every day.  The more changes we make, the more change there will be.

"If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten" Anthony Robbins

I have found that at the beginning it can all be very overwhelming.  There is a lot of new information to take on.  To integrate, break it down into bite-sized chunks.  Most days, I perform my daily rituals to keep me on track.

Morning (before breakfast)
I would recommend you do a meditation  After the mediation, you could then think about your day ahead, and visualise all the different situations you are going into.  If any of them bring up troubled thoughts, try and visualise them going exactly how you would like them to go.  Send love and blessings ahead of you to everyone you may encounter.  

Spend some time giving some thought to your longer term goals/dreams.  Visualise them positively.

Then choose an affirmation for the day, it may be one that comes readily to you, or it may be to counter-balance some negative feelings you may have that day.  As you say it, visualise your life as though this were true.  Feel love towards this life.

Through the day, aim to notice your gratitude, be loving and kind, give to others.  Receive compliments.  Give compliments, smile.

If you observe negativity coming up, observe, acknowledge, try and release.  Affirm the positive.

In the evening, in your journal, debrief from your day.  Think about the difficult situations, about how you could maybe see it from a different viewpoint, is there any other way you could have reacted to promote a more positive outcome.  Have you honoured yourself?  Your needs and wishes?  Have your voiced your concerns?  Asserted yourself?  Been loving towards yourself?   Sometimes when I notice myself feeling cross with myself for something I have said or done, I imagine if I was a child and I was also a kind loving parent, what would I be saying to myself?  I would probably be telling myself to not be so hard on myself, to forgive myself, to comfort myself, to support myself.

As I am falling asleep, I ask my guides/angels to offer me protection and any healing I may need during the night for my highest good.  I also ask for any divine inspiration or guidance I may need to hear.  I personally notice a lot of answers to my questions and problems come to me during my dreamtime.  

Thank you for reading my blog, for reading these 10 steps.  I hope that some or all of what I have written might be helpful to you.  Please follow up with the recommend reading from step one.  Please feel free to comment/share with your facebook/your friends and anyone you feel may benefit.

May all your dreams come true.  Namaste  Elaine

Transform your Life. Step 9 of 10

Transform your life!  Step 9 of 10 effective steps on how to start creating the changes you want

I have produced this series of steps on "How to effectively create the changes you want in your life" as an outline of the work I teach with my Intuitive Life-coaching work.  
I hope you find this helpful and it encourages you to start making some changes. 
Start where you are, start one day at a time, start with one thing at a time.  Slow and steady progress is the most likely to make the longer term results.  Changes need time to integrate into your life.
Please feel free to like/comment/share.  Thank you.  Elaine <3

Step 9

Follow your Bliss.  Find your Life Purpose

What motivates you?  What are you passionate about?  What would you love to spend your time doing?  What makes you feel alive?

"The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose"  Richard Leiden

Observe your emotions.  They are an important component in applying the law of attraction. Learn to listen to them.  Attune to your intuition.  Your emotions will indicate how well you are on track with manifesting your heart's desires/following your life's purpose.  They are communicating back to you about what you are thinking about, believing; what music you are listening to; what tv you are watching - if its good for you.   If you are feeling negative, you will be thinking negative thoughts.  When you are feeling joyful, you are on purpose.  

Your higher self communicates with you through your emotions.  It is generally considered that when you are thinking about something, if you are feeling good about it, it is an indicator that this is good for you (and related to your life's purpose).  If you aren't feeling so good about it, then maybe you need to reconsider.  Follow your "gut" reaction/your hunches.
I notice it when I feel "stressed" - it indicates to me that either something I'm doing or the way I'm doing it; or something I'm thinking about, isn't working for me.  
Its important to listen to this and to follow it as much as possible.  It is like your inner guidance system.

Mood Shifters
Write yourself a mood-shifter list.  These are things that are personal to you, that tend to make you feel better.
If you are feeling negative, it can be helpful to back track to when this feeling started. Sometimes I can wake up feeling positive and motivated, then one little thing that happens in my morning, a small passing conversation with someone, a difficult thought I choose to bring to mind can leave me feeling low/negative/sad.  Unless I stop and back track, this feeling can sometimes stay all day, and it can generate more negativity to come my way because of my negative energy field that I am taking with me to all my activities that day.  Sometimes, just becoming aware of what has upset you is enough, other times you may need to process it more - write in your journal, ring a supportive friend.  Other times you may just feel low and not know why.  Then it can be good to look at and work on an activity on your mood shifter list.  
Examples:
Singing along to your favourite music.
Having a hot bath with essential oils.
Going for a walk in nature - by the sea, in the woods, in the mountains.
Talking to a good friend.
Having a massage.
going to bed for a sleep
Doing a meditation
Reading a book you love.
Watching a film you love.

Our deepest dreams can also be an indicator as to our life's purpose.  What are your dreams?

You might want to write these questions down in your journal and write your answers alongside:
What makes me feel alive?
What are my natural gifts/talents?
What do I love to do?
If money and time were no object, what would I be doing?
If I couldn't fail to succeed, what would I be doing?

You may want to ask yourself these questions before or after doing a meditation and listen for your answer.  You may wish to purchase some oracle cards - (Doreen Virtue, Diana Cooper, Colette Baron-Reid, Sonia Choquette all do good ones).

Transform your Life. Step 8 of 10

Transform your life!  Step 8 of 10 effective steps on how to start creating the changes you want

I have produced this series of steps on "How to effectively create the changes you want in your life" as an outline of the work I teach with my Intuitive Life-coaching work.  
I hope you find this helpful and it encourages you to start making some changes. 
Start where you are, start one day at a time, start with one thing at a time.  Slow and steady progress is the most likely to make the longer term results.  Changes need time to integrate into your life.
Please feel free to like/comment/share.  Thank you.  Elaine <3

Step 8

Examine your thoughts and beliefs.  Are they reflecting what you want to manifest?

One of the crucial aspects of the law of attraction is believing that you will receive what you are asking for.  

Ask.  Believe.  Receive.

Think it.  Say it.  Do it.  Be it.

There is a divine timing to all things occurring.  If what we wish for and desire were manifest instantly in our lives, we would have no trouble with believing the law of attraction/creation. However, when things take longer than we want, we struggle with our faith.  We then start believing others (and our inner voice) when they tell us, it cant happen, why do we deserve that, its too expensive, etc
We then start affirming that it is impossible or too far fetched for this to enter our lives, this then starts negating all the work you have been doing in asking for it to come into your life.

 "Be happy with what you have, while working for what you want"  Helen Keller

We are so conditioned by our past experiences that it is can feel really difficult to change and appreciate that the power is in the present moment.

Start questioning.  If what you are trying to manifest is more financial abundance, start looking at your thoughts around money.  What do your parents think about money?  How were the finances when you were growing up?  Were you always scrimping and saving?  Were your parents struggling at the end of the month?  Was food tight?  Or were your parents wealthy? Did you have guilt around that?  Or maybe you didn't get on with your parents and want to reject wealth?
If you have money, are you embarassed by it and try to play it down?  Its ok to be wealthy and spiritual.  The more we have, the more people and charities we can help, the more energy we have freed up to do good, and to follow our life purpose.
Or are you jealous of those with money?  Do you gossip about people with money?
Does money represent love to you?  Or security? 

If you want to have a partner and grew up in a single parent family - did your parent put down the opposite sex or in a double parent family - was there always fighting?

Where do you live?  What are society's views around money?  Relationships?  

Did you have a religious upbringing - what was your church's views?  I recently heard the phrase "money is the root of all evil" - how can humans put so much negative energy on money?  Money is an energy.  It has no intrinsic value of good or bad.  It can be used for good or bad.  Money needs to flow.  To be in our power, we need to not be struggling and making do. We don't want to be spending a lot of our energy struggling to make money and worrying about paying our bills.  It distracts us from our life purpose and depletes our energy/motivation and passion.

Spend as much time as you can observing your thoughts around what you are trying to manifest.  Listen to the conversations you have with others around it.  Do you hear yourself saying regularly "I'm skint, I haven't got enough money" or "There are no good men/women around or All the good ones are taken.

Work with affirmations (see Step 5)
For example
I choose to believe that money comes easily and frequently to me.  
I choose to believe that money comes from many and varied sources.
I am willing to be prosperous, no matter what others may think.

I am open to meeting new loving people.
I have space in my life to attract a loving and supportive partner.

Transform your Life. Step 7 of 10

Transform your life!  Step 7 of 10 effective steps on how to start creating the changes you want

I have produced this series of steps on "How to effectively create the changes you want in your life" as an outline of the work I teach with my Intuitive Life-coaching work.  
I hope you find this helpful and it encourages you to start making some changes. 
Start where you are, start one day at a time, start with one thing at a time.  Slow and steady progress is the most likely to make the longer term results.  Changes need time to integrate into your life.
Please feel free to like/comment/share.  Thank you.  Elaine <3

Step 7

Break the habit of negative thinking.

#Don't allow yourself the luxury of a negative thought # stop complaining.

Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction.  Break the habit.  Talk about your joys.
A lot of us spend a lot of time complaining about our life - the weather, our work, our work colleagues, our partners, having to do chores around the house, not enough money, not enough time, not enough sleep etc.....
If you want to bring more good into your life, you need to start focussing on your joys. What brings you happiness, that you did get some sleep, that you do have a job, that you do have food to eat, that the rain replenishes the earth.  With the difficult things in your life, try and find a level of acceptance if you are not able to change them.  Spending energy complaining about things you cant change is futile.  Learning acceptance and patience.

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference."  The Serenity Prayer

You could also look on the challenging things in your life as growth-promoting.  If you never had any problems, if your life was easy, work was easy, you got on with everyone, you had enough money, you had peace and harmony all around you, where would the growth be?  Challenges encourage us to find different ways of doing and perceiving things, they enable us to gain wisdom.  Embrace the adventure of life.

However, there may be a lot of negativity in your life, in your outlook.  It is important to release the negativity so you can allow the new in/more of what you want.  Ways to release negativity are: therapeutically talking to a supportive friend, seeing a counsellor/therapist, writing in a journal.  But see these activities as actively releasing your negativity from your energy field. Once you have spent time talking about these things, let them go.  Don't harbour anger.  Work towards forgiveness.  You need to release the past.

"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to get ill" - Buddha

"Dwell not on the past.  Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind.  Nothing really matters except what you do now in this instant of time.  From this moment onwards you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed"  Eileen Caddy

Practise a 30 day diet of breaking the habit of negative thinking/complaining.  Make a conscious decision to focus on the positive for 30 days.  Focus on what you do want, give no time or attention to what you don't want.  Write in your journal, any negativity that comes up in the day, then let it go.  Don't spend the day moaning about the weather, complaining about your annoying work colleagues, your unsupportive partner.

"Since the Law of Attraction responds to the energy vibration of your thoughts and emotions, you need to focus your attention on the things that bring you into a state of positive vibration."  Jack Canfield

Carry your journal with you through the day, for 30 days, then at regular intervals throughout the day, notice where your attention is focussed.  Write it down.  If it is negatively focussed, let it go and reaffirm your intentions for the rest of the day/life/your dream.

"Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results"  Willie Nelson.

Watch your words through the day, instead of complaining about your lack of money, say I am manifesting more money each day or I am open and receptive to all channels of abundance.

Instead of complaining about your unsupportive partner, affirm, I am surrounded by love and support.

Instead of complaining about your physical ailments, focus and affirm the parts of your body that do work well - I am so grateful for my full eyesight.

"We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence then is not an action, but a habit." Aristotle

"You must bring yourself into alignment with what you are asking for.  That's what joy is, that's what appreciation is, that's what the feeling of passion is.  But when you are feeling despair, or fear, or anger, those are strong indicators that you are not right now in alignment with what you are asking for"  Esther Hicks.

Transform your Life. Step 6 of 10.

Transform your life!  Step 6 of 10 effective steps on how to start creating the changes you want

I have produced this series of steps on "How to effectively create the changes you want in your life" as an outline of the work I teach with my Intuitive Life-coaching work.  
I hope you find this helpful and it encourages you to start making some changes. 
Start where you are, start one day at a time, start with one thing at a time.  Slow and steady progress is the most likely to make the longer term results.  Changes need time to integrate into your life.
Please feel free to like/comment/share.  Thank you.  Elaine <3

Step 6

Meditation

"The quieter you become the more you can hear"  Ram Dass

Take time each day to step away from the noise.  Spend time quietly alone each day. Meditation helps us connect to ourselves, to feel our feelings, to observe our thoughts, to hear our higher selves/our spirit guides/our angels.

It calms and soothes our spirit.  It promotes calm and inner peace in our lives.  It restores balance and reconnects us to the Universal Mind/Source.

It is a space in which we can hear our inner voice and through which we can develop and gain confidence in our intuition.  It gives us more confidence to follow our heart, our passions, our love, and our inner knowing.

Start with 3 minutes per day - you could do a 3 minute breathing space (see youtube).  You could then increase to 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, and more.  What is generally highly recommend is 20-30 minutes twice daily once you are more serious and committed to a meditation practice.

There are plenty of books about meditation - I particularly like "Meditation for Beginners" by Jack Kornfield.  There are plenty of you tube clips to short meditations.  I also recommend www.headspace.com - a mediation for your smart phone or similar device.  

Transform your Life. Step 5 of 10

Transform your life!  Step 5 of 10 effective steps on how to start creating the changes you want

I have produced this series of steps on "How to effectively create the changes you want in your life" as an outline of the work I teach with my Intuitive Life-coaching work.  
I hope you find this helpful and it encourages you to start making some changes. 
Start where you are, start one day at a time, start with one thing at a time.  Slow and steady progress is the most likely to make the longer term results.  Changes need time to integrate into your life.
Please feel free to like/comment/share.  Thank you.  Elaine <3

Step 5

Giving and Receiving

Allow the Universe to give to you in expected and unexpected ways.  Often we get despondent about things now happening for us when we have asked because it is either not happening in the way we expected or in the timing we expected/hoped for.  Have faith.  The Universe has heard your wishes and is responding in the most appropriate way for your Highest Good and the Highest Good of all concerned.  There is a divine timing.

Giving and receiving are part of the same energy flow.  Flow is a key word here.  If you want more incoming flow in your life, you need to allow energy to flow.  If you want more money to flow into your life, you need to allow money to flow.

A lot of us have put an energy onto money that money equals security.  Money is purely a symbol for an exchange of energy.  However, if you trust and intend that you will always be provided for, there is no need to accrue a pot of money "just in case".  We seem to have this need to own things, which tends to come from a fear based space of it could all be taken from me.  Fear and trust are two sides of the same coin.

Give what you want to receive.  If you want acknowledgement, acknowledge everyone around you.  If you want to feel loved, be loving to all those around you.  If you want to be given flowers, buy flowers for yourself and/or give them to people around you.

You are a magnet.  You attract the energy back to you that you are emanating.

Wherever you go each day, and whoever you see - take a gift.  This could be a flower, a compliment, a smile, a blessing/well-wish, a note.  You don't have to spend money on this.  It is the act of giving that is important, not the cost.  Give to yourself also, a compliment,  some flowers, some time/space; a pampering treat - essential oil bath/a massage/exercise you enjoy/a delicious meal.
Notice how well you receive things.  When someone compliments you on your hair or an item of clothing - do you say "thank you I love it too" or do you say "what this old thing?  it was only cheap? I don't think it suits me?"
Observe your resistance to receiving.
Exercise - if you find this difficult - ask your friends/family to help you practise receiving by giving you something each time you see them.  If you find it hard to say thank you, at least don't say anything and negate the gift.
You might like to start working with the affirmations:
I am blessed.
I am surrounded by love and support.
I am open and receptive to all channels of abundance.
I am open and receptive to all possibilities.

Transform your Life. Step 4 of 10

Transform your life!  Step 4 of 10 effective steps on how to start creating the changes you want

I have produced this series of steps on "How to effectively create the changes you want in your life" as an outline of the work I teach with my Intuitive Life-coaching work.  
I hope you find this helpful and it encourages you to start making some changes. 
Start where you are, start one day at a time, start with one thing at a time.  Slow and steady progress is the most likely to make the longer term results.  Changes need time to integrate into your life.
Please feel free to like/comment/share.  Thank you.  Elaine <3

Step 4

Gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful and effective way of changing our energy field; the thoughts and intentions we are giving to the universe.  It can powerfully change your attitude and perceptions about your life.

By complaining about what we don't want in your life, we are attracting more things to complain about.  What you focus on expands.

By focussing on what is going well for us in our lives, we are attracting more of the same.

As far back as I can remember, I was always focussing on the negative.  If you have ever read the Winnie the Pooh stories, I was frequently like Eeyore, the eternal pessimist.  I was focussing on the cup being half empty.  Working with gratitude has changed my life beyond recognition.  If I notice myself focussing on what's wrong, I can change my "mood" within minutes by noticing what's right.  

Obviously, not always, however,  Sometimes what's going on is much deeper.  And for some occasions/people/situations in your life, seeking outside help in the form of counselling or therapy is very important.

But it is fantastic for those of us that seem to be complaining about all the little annoyances on a daily basis.

Start practising daily gratitude.

Either say things aloud, or write them down.

Some examples can be:

10 things you are grateful for relating to:

 - your friends and family - their support/companionship/feeling loved etc

- your senses - the beautiful things (eg a sunset) you can see with your eyesight; the lovely music you can hear with your hearing; the lovely food you can taste; the sweet smell of flowers

 - your physical body - your eyesight/hearing/good digestion/the fact that you can walk/or your skin is comfortable/you are pain-free.

If you have a lot of physical issues, it might help to focus on the positive by thinking about people that might be living in a more difficult situation than yourself - this can often make you feel very grateful for what you do have.

"The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things"  Henry Ward Becker

"Gratitude is absolutely the way to bring more into your life"  Marci Shimoff

Practise daily gratitude.  You could start the day by saying thank you for your comfortable bed, your hot running water,your power shower, the fact that you can nourish yourself with a good breakfast, your loving family, your warm house.....

Stop at frequent intervals through the day and look around, notice 10 things you feel grateful for right now.

Before you go to sleep, think about your day.  think of at least 10 things you feel grateful for that happened in your day.  Send loving thoughts to the people that you encountered in your day.

Transform your Life! Step 3 of 10.

Transform your Life!  10 effective steps to encourage you to start making the changes you want.  Step 3

I have produced this series of steps on "How to effectively create the changes you want in your life" as an outline of the work I teach with my Intuitive Life-coaching work.  

I hope you find this helpful and encourages you to start making some changes. 

Start where you are, start one day at a time, start with one thing at a time.  Slow and steady progress is the most produce the longer term results.  Changes need time to integrate into your life.

Please feel free to comment/like/share.  Thank you.  Elaine <3

Step 3

Working with Visualisation and Affirmations.

Once you have completed step 2, go back to your quiet/meditative space.  Once there, become aware of your surroundings.  Become as present as you can.  Do the 3 minute "Breathing space" meditation. (these can be found on youtube)
Now work with your vision.  Visualise how you would like your life to look.  Visualise it as though you are there, you are currently living that life.  Imagine looking out from your eyes, looking around and seeing this wonderful life and vision you have created.  What do you see? Picture the colours, who would be there with you?  Where are you living?  How does it feel? What would you be looking at?  What sounds would you be hearing?  What can you smell?

"Visualisation is daydreaming with a purpose"  Bo Bennett

When you are really feeling in the thick of it all, start thinking about what thoughts you would be having about your life.  What would your beliefs be?
Then from a "present" viewpoint, start writing these down and/or saying them out loud.  Try and start with the words "I am.......

for example:
I am with a loving partner who supports me.
I am working in a job that I love, that motivates me and that I am passionate about. 
I am well paid.
I am experiencing perfect health
I am surround by loving family and friends
I am experiencing inner peace and calm
I am financially abundant
etc......

Now notice any negativity that comes up from within you when you say/write down these affirmations.  Really listen to this negativity/disbelief - you have to release this, to allow more of what you want into your life.  Notice it, observe it, don't judge it.  Acknowledge your negativity.   

You might work with the affirmations like this:
Example one:
Positive thought you would be having if you were living the life you want:
I am with a loving partner who supports me.
Negativity that comes up when I try to believe this:
But I am single
But I never meet anyone
But all the good men/women are taken
All men/women are assholes
I cant trust men/women again
I have been heartbroken too many times.
I'm too old/ugly/fat

Example two:
Positive thought you would be having if you were living the life you want:
I am financially abundant
Negativity that comes up when I try to believe this:
But I don't have enough money
But I'm worried about how to pay my bills
But I've always been hard up
But I have lots of debt
But I don't earn enough.

Keep writing until you can't think of any more. 
Then start replacing these beliefs with some positive thoughts.

For example:
I am choosing to let go of my negativity around money.
I am choosing to manifest financial abundance.  
I am a money magnet
I am choosing to be open and receptive to all channels of abundance.
I am intending to receive financial abundance and support.
I am manifesting financial ease.
I am choosing to believe that money comes from many and varied sources.

If our thoughts are creating our future, we need to learn to release our negative thoughts and beliefs. 
During meditation, you can ask your higher self/the universe/your angels to help you release your negativity and to transmute this negativity and remove it from your energy field. 
You might also want to work with this breathing technique:
Breathe slowly and deeply.  On the inhale, say to yourself:
"I am receiving for my highest good"
On the exhale, say to yourself:
" I release what I no longer need"
Do this for at least 5 breaths.

Transform your Life! Step 2 of 10

       10 Steps to encourage you to start making the changes you want in your life. 
I have produced this series of steps on "How to effectively create the changes you want in your life" as an outline of the work I teach with my Intuitive Life-coaching work.  

I hope you find this helpful and it encourages you to start making some changes. 

Start where you are, start one day at a time, start with one thing at a time.  Slow and steady progress is the most likely to produce the longer term results.  Changes need time to integrate into your life.

Please feel free to like/comment/share.  Thank you.  Elaine <3

Step 2

Ask for what you want.

What changes do you want in your life?  What isn't working well for you?  There might be one area or there be many areas in your life where you want change.

Take your time with this step.  Quieten down.  Contemplate.  Reflect.  Take hours/days/weeks pondering this question.  Edit and change it as you get clearer.

How do I want my life to be?  What changes would I like to see in my life?

Go and spend some time in nature, take a notebook and pen.  Ideally, sit quietly in woodland or beside water, or in the mountains, ideally on the ground.  Obviously, if this isn't possible, then choose a lovely room in your house, possibly light some candles/burn some incense/essential oils.  Choose an area that you feel particularly drawn to, then sit and spend some time quietly becoming aware of your present surroundings.  Heighten your senses of sight, smell, sounds.  Do a 3 minute "Breathing space" meditation if possible. (you can find these on youtube)

Then when you're feeling present, ask for your higher self ( and if you would like, your angels/spirit guides) to be with you.  

Then start writing down what you want and how you would like your life to look.  Let your imagination soar.  Don't dampen down your dreams before you have allowed yourself to hear them.  

Make sure you only note what you do want in your life, not what you don't want.  You may wish to consider the aspects of your life that you aren't happy with, and that you want to change to enable you to then affirm what you do want.

Don't worry about how ridiculous or far-fetched or unattainable these seem.  Don't consider how you might achieve these changes.  Just write them down.

See in your mind's eye, how you would like your life to look.  Allow yourself the vision.

"Most of us have never allowed ourselves to want what we truly want, because we can't see how it's going to manifest"  Jack Canfield

Additional tips:  you may wish to create a vision board or a vision book.  Either get a large (A3)piece of card, or a beautiful "collage" book.  Use paints, or colours, magazine clippings of words or photos.  Start collaging what you want to attract into your life.  Add to this/edit it as required over the next few weeks.  If you aren't really clear about how certain things look (ie if you are wanting to attract a partner) then just collage the "essence" of the thing/person.

Transform your Life! - Step 1 of 10

10 Steps to encourage you to start making the changes you want in your life.  

I have produced this series of steps on "How to effectively start to create the changes you want in your life" as an outline of the work I teach with my Intuitive Life-coaching work.  
I am currently producing some Meditation MP3s to accompany this work.
I hope you find this helpful and it encourages you to start making some changes. 
Start where you are, start one day at a time, start with one thing at a time.  Slow and steady progress is the most likely way to produce the longer term results.  Changes need time to integrate into your life.
Please feel free to comment/like/share. Thank you.  Elaine <3

Step 1

The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is an underlying natural law of the universe.  The basic premise is that: Our thoughts are creative.  What we focus on expands.  Thought + belief = manifestation.
You will attract into your life whatever you focus on.  Whatever you give your energy and attention to, whatever you believe in, will manifest in your life.
"We are a result of what we have thought"  Buddha
"You are what you think about all day long"  Dr Robert Schuller

This is powerful stuff - and scary.  What's happening to me now, is what I have attracted?  However, if I now take control of my thoughts and beliefs, I can change my life?

You can't escape from this law.  It is working all day, every day, whether you are conscious of it or not.
You are always in a state of creation.  You are creating your reality in every moment of every day.

"You attract to you the predominant thoughts that you're holding in your awareness, whether those thoughts are conscious or unconscious.  Thats the rub."  Michael Bernard Beckwith

The power is in the present moment.  Don't worry about what you have been thinking about and focussing on up to this point.  Start consciously changing your thoughts as of now/today.  Start examining your beliefs and see if they are creating the life you want to live.  If not, you can change them.

"Choose to focus your thoughts on the good things that you already have, as well as those that you're going to attract"  Sandra Anne Taylor

" If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten"  Anthony Robbins

Quantum physics states we are energy.  Everything is energy.  All matter is energy.  Energy is in constant motion.  Energy follows thought.  
We are all connected.  We are interdependent.  Our bodies/cells/subatomic particles are always changing.
You are a magnet - you attract things to you that vibrate at the same frequency.

"Quantum mechanics confirms it.  Quantum cosmology confirms it.  That the Universe essentially emerges from thought and all of this matter around us is just precipitated thought.  Ultimately, we are the source of the Universe, and when we understand that power directly by experience, we can start to exercise our authority and begin to achieve more and more.  Create anything.  Know anything from within the field of our own consciousness, which ultimately is Universal consciousness that runs the Universe."  Dr John Hagelin, Quantum Physicist

I would recommend that if this is the first time that you have come across this idea, that you sit with it for a while.  Observe all your disbelief coming up and note it down.  Observe your negativity that comes up and note it down.  These are important tools to work with.  More to follow in a later post.


Recommended reading:
"Wishes Fulfilled" Wayne Dyer
"The Moses Code" James Twyman
"Three Magic Words" Uell Andersen
"Quantum Success" Sandra Anne Taylor
"The Key to living the Law of Attraction" Jack Canfield
"Creating Money" Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer
"The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success" Deepak Chopra
"The Law of Attraction" Esther and Jerry Hicks
"The Secret" Rhonda Byrne

"Infinite Abundance". Becoming a spiritual millionaire. Jason Chan

How much money is enough?

Following on from my previous blog about is it ok to be spiritual and wealthy.  How much is enough money? When do we call ourselves wealthy or rich?  Is it all relative?  Does money represent something for you - love? security? status? success?
A friend recently said to me, we never feel like we have enough money - because however much we earn, we just spend more and see more things we would like to buy or experiences to spend our money on.  Is this true? 
If my income doubled - would I feel wealthy?  Do I feel wealthy now?  I certainly have all my needs met - I have a house, clothing, enough food to eat.  I am therefore wealthier than the majority of the world's population.  So why dont I always feel wealthy?  The basis of capitalism is a consumer society.  We are fed the idea that the more money we have, the happier we will be.  But surely, the more "things" we own, the more we can feel worried about losing.  The more "insurance" we need to buy.
What are we ultimately looking for?
I would suggest it is:
Happiness, sense of security, love, a sense of belonging, friendship, good health, a loving family, possibly to have children, a sense of life purpose.  Can any of these things be bought?.....................
A Buddhist teacher I heard of said, "if you want to feel contented, reduce your needs"
According to Buddhist teachings, "one will never be truly happy until one is Enlightened"

Enlightenment to most of us, probably appears to be unattainable.  However, Eckhart Tolle in his books: The Power of Now and A New Earth, says that we can have brief moments of enlightenment when we are totally present, 100% in the Now.  
Instead of chasing money, maybe we should be seeking Being....................

Is it OK to be Spiritual and Wealthy?

Someone recently said to me, in response to me quoting "Spiritual health and material well-being are not enemies; they are natural allies" , that money is the root of all evil and spirit is not a commodity.

This reminded me of something that I have frequently pondered over in  the last couple of decades (while practising as an acupuncturist and seeing colleagues and other healers' attitudes to the way they charge for their services).
What is this thing that a lot of "spiritual" people have that its not ok to charge for their services or at least to not charge very much, or to just do it on a donation basis.
Unless you are wealthy enough to not need to earn money, if you don't charge for services you provide that may be spiritually based, you will have another "job" that earns you money to pay for your house, food, clothing etc.  Therefore, you will spend less time being of "spiritual service" to the world, and more time worrying about money and struggling to make ends meet.

It is not innately spiritual to live in poverty.  You can be spiritual with or without money.
"It is perfectly good, reasonable, advisable and seriously okay to be spiritual and rich"  Maggy Whitehouse

If you then see "wealthy" people as something to be jealous of or angry with (due to inequalities), you are then blocking wealth from coming to you.  Money is an energy and needs to flow.  It isn't great to have none, but it also isn't healthy to just "need" to accrue money, that comes from a place of poverty consciousness - there isn't enough therefore I need to hold onto what I have.

"One of the greatest secrets of prosperity is to allow it to flow to us, and through us without need to hold onto it or tie it down"  Maggy Whitehouse.

I love the idea of being a philanthropist.  To have that much money that I can use it to support products and services that I believe in.  To support spiritual communities and projects so that they are able to offer more support and classes to people that would otherwise be unable to afford it.  To subsidise and promote alternative health care for all.
Having been an acupuncturist all of my working life, I would love to see Acupuncture being more widely offered to the whole community.  The multi-bed clinic set-up has certainly opened acupuncture up to a whole lot more people that wouldn't ordinarily have afforded it.

Incidentally the quote that started off this rant was actually mis-quoted.  The quote from the bible is:
"The love of money is the root of all evil"
That makes more sense - why revere and pursue money over peace of mind, contentment, jy, happiness and bliss.  It isn't helpful to chase money but it is certainly helpful to earn enough to live a comfortable life and the more money you earn the more you can help others.  Embrace abundance!

Why all the negativity?

My life/living situation doesn't vary a great deal from day to day.  My job is the same, I have the same partner, the same children, the same chores around the house, similar things to do most days and most weeks, a similar financial situation most days and most weeks.  
So why does my emotional life sometimes vary so much from hour to hour/day to day/week to week?
Why do I sometimes feel great, alive, passionate and motivated?  And why do I sometimes feel sad, angry, irritable, frustrated, anxious?  When my external circumstances haven't especially changed?
I find that the way I'm feeling can potentially totally change my experience and perceptions and the way I react in my day.  I am working on being more present, less reactive, less defensive and more observant of the emotions that pass across my life rather than identifying with them.
When I notice these challenging emotions and negativity, and I have the luxury of time and space, I will work to release this with active meditation and visualisation; or walking in woodland/along the beach.
However, I also observe that sometimes I seem to want to hang on to the negativity.
To have inner peace, we need to let go of our desire to hold on to our pain.
Eckhart Tolle talks about our "pain bodies".  He says "All problems are illustions of the mind. Focus your attention on the now and tell me what problem you have at this moment.  I am not getting any answer because it is impossible to have a problem when you attention is fully in the Now.  A situation needs to be either dealt with or accepted.  Why make it into a problem?"

We are part of a living Universe

We are part of a living universe, an alive universe.  We are not separate.  Many human beings see themselves as separate from nature.
If you sit within nature, you can feel it, buzzing alive, all around you.  Including yourself, you are a part of this alive universe.

The 4 elements.

The Air, life-giving, precious air.  We need it to breathe.  It creates movement in our body - our ribs, our belly, our chest as we inhale and exhale.  How good does a "breath of fresh air" feel?
The wind that blows in the trees.  Sit and listen to the leaves.  The air currents that enable so many creatures to fly.
Feel the air against your skin, the wind in your hair, the breath in your body.
The beauty it provides us with - the movement of trees, the waves it creates, the forms made by wind erosion.

The Earth, life-giving, precious earth.  
It provides us with our total nourishment, the food we need regularly to survive.  
The earth that provides the raw material for our structures - our buildings, roads, furniture, metals.
The earth that provides us with such beauty - flowers, trees, gems.
The earth that grounds us, supports us, holds us.  Walk barefoot upon the earth and feel the pulse of the planet.

The Water, life-giving water.  It quenches our thirsts.  Our body is made of 80% water.  It sustains our internal organs, body tissues, our arteries and veins.
Water that falls upon the earth and grows our food, our trees, our forests.  The water in our taps that cleanses us, that we cook with.
Water that cools us down when overheated. 
 Our rainfall, oceans and rivers that cleanse our planet.  The majority of our planet is covered in water - the blue planet.
The beauty that water provides us with - the waterfalls, oceans, rivers and valleys.
Swim in the ocean, river or lake or walk in a puddle, or lie in the bath.  Feel its nourishment and cleansing.

The Fire, life-giving, precious fire.  
The heat that keeps us alive.  The sun that warms our planet, that warms the earth to grow our food.  The heat from our cooker that cooks our food to sustain us.
The heat in our vulnerable human bodies, that can only vary by a few degrees centigrade.
The warmth in our hearts that enable us to feel compassion with others.
The joy of lying in the sunshine and warming us through to the bone after a long cold winter.
The beauty of a bonfire, a hearth fire, a volcano.  The beauty of a sunset.

We are not separate from nature.  We are nature.

I'm losing control!

I originally started writing this blog because over the last couple of years there has been a lot of change in my life but not necessarily in the way that I wanted/anticipated.  I mentioned to a couple of close friends that I don't seem to know what I'm doing with my life anymore and they thought that quite a lot of people are in this position, therefore the blog!
The last couple of years have been somewhat of an inner spiritual journey and I've been having to let go of a lot of perceived control over my external circumstances.
This has felt very challenging.
Over the last couple of years I've been experiencing the feeling of wanting change in my life and I've had moments where I've felt really divinely inspired about what I want this change to be.  Mainly, changes in my living location and expansion and change with my career.
However, right now my life feels that it's fairly topsy turvey, and not flowing in the way that makes me feel in control of it! in the past when I've had clear ideas of change that I want, for example, moving from one town to another - it has happened really quickly.   I had the idea; mentioned it to my husband; he was open to this level of change; we found a house to move to fairly easily; the transition went smoothly.
My previous experiences when I've had divinely inspired ideas or real lightbulb moments of what I need to do seem to have transitioned really easily.
Right now, it doesnt feel like things are flowing as easily or readily or in the way or time-span that I would like.
It feels like I am being asked to learn some lessons.
I'm having to learn to quieten my logical/rational/over-thinking mind and allow my intuition to develop; and to learn to live more in the present moment.
And to listen to my inner knowing/my higher self?  My knowing that I will be provided for and that everything is exactly as its meant to be for me right now.
This is very challenging for me as I'm naturally a very big planner.  I like planning things and knowing what's happening in my life.  I've always worked from the viewpoint that if you work out what you want; get focussed; and think about what you can do to make it happen; then you work really hard and then it happens/works for you.  This is what is being brought into question for me, because this isn't working for me at the moment.  I'm having to rethink/refeel how things work in my life.
So I'm having to learn patience and surrender.
Earlier this week I had a strong logical idea and I could feel myself slipping back into my old pattern of over-thinking and trying to make it happen. The next day I woke up not feeling great!  I notice that not feeling 100% physically makes me very present, more in my body and less active mentally.  My physical body seems to force me to become more present by making me feel physically unwell and making my head feel foggy.
I'm having to let go of the need to feel in control of my life.  And even though I'm having these inspired ideas, I'm having to do whats in front of me that day and that week.
I'm having to expand and deepen my trust in the support of the universe.  I'm also having to release my negativity, my frustrations/anger/sadness which comes up about the fact that I'm not in control; things arent happening in the way that I want them to happen or in the time span I want them to happen in.
My whole energetic body is being asked to work in a different way.
Is it that these are energetically turbulent times?  The planet is certainly at a crisis point.  So maybe we're being asked and encouraged to look at life in a different way and to awaken?
Surely it cant just be me?  Is this a planetary shift?  There must be many more humans that are being asked to question and awaken and work from a different perspective?